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Monday, July 06, 2009
Fort Wayne Site-of-the-Day
Today, instead of just a picture and a link, I have a story to tell too.
Typically Sunday morning for me is spent at the Firefly Coffee House on North Anthony. They open at 8, and I'm one of the first ones through the door. Yesterday however, I stayed home until 10 and then made my way to the Firefly.
When I first sat down, I picked up a booklet "Coming into Third Place" that was sitting on the table next to me. As soon as I read the opening line, I was hooked.
Problem was is that there is no author listed. At the back is a website, or blog so I turned on my computer and navigated to the listed site and discovered that the booklet was a print-out of the website.
Still no clue to the author. Perhaps they will reveal themselves to me one day. The writing is quite insightful and I encourage you to take 10 minutes and read the blog. Click here to go there.
Leave a comment if you desire.
Sunday, July 05, 2009
How to Be a Selfish Pig-Man
from the DLM Blog:
Known fact - men and women are pretty different. There are things about women that men have spent years trying to understand and guess what, women don't always get men either. However, no matter how much of a "man's man" you are, there are things you have to notice about the woman you have been dating.
The following is a guide to help you lose your girlfriend. So, if you are happy and want to remain in your relationship, do the opposite of what is listed below.
Posted: 27 Jun 2009 10:53 AM PDT
Known fact - men and women are pretty different. There are things about women that men have spent years trying to understand and guess what, women don't always get men either. However, no matter how much of a "man's man" you are, there are things you have to notice about the woman you have been dating.The following is a guide to help you lose your girlfriend. So, if you are happy and want to remain in your relationship, do the opposite of what is listed below.
- Buy flowers for her twice a year
If you only buy your girlfriend flowers on her birthday and your anniversary - she won't feel special. You know why? Because doing this will make you predictable and boring. Women love "just because" and unexpected stuff. While it doesn't necessarily have to be a bouquet of roses or anything expensive, the point is that you should occasionally do something a little out of the ordinary (and so should she). - Send her calls to voicemail
Even if the Lakers are playing or you are in the middle of a video game, just answer! Women like to call just because - and believe me, she will start to get that pain in her stomach and begin jumping to conclusions if don't answer after multiple calls. By answering, you will give her the chance to understand you are focused on something else and not someone else. - Keep saying "yes" to the guys
When you always say yes to the guys, your girlfriend will begin to feel left out. Remember, women love quality time! If you can find a balance between your guy time and quality time with her, she will be happy and reassured that you are into the relationship. - Leave the toilet seat up
There is nothing like falling in the toilet at 3AM. And after falling in the toilet - I am certain you will hate to hear her mouth until the next business day. There is a simple fix. The simple task of placing the toilet seat down will eliminate an agruement and help convey that you are at least a little considerate. - Don't pop the question
Five years is not only a long time to be in a relationship - it is a long time to be in a relationship without an engagement ring. If you know marriage is not for you, be up front and honest about that while you are dating. Please do not lead a woman on to believe anything differently.
 | Written on 6/27/2009 by Rhonda Kennedy. Rhonda is a screenplay writer that enjoys meeting new people, spending time with family and listening to live music. If you want to get in touch with her, feel free to email her at kennedylife@gmail.com. | Photo Credit: simplified complication |
Saturday, July 04, 2009
Friday, July 03, 2009
Mistakes
from the DLM Blog:
We are all afraid of making mistakes. Humiliation, embarrassment, censure and lots of other nasty things can come from simple or significant mistakes.
We would all love to be perfect and do it all right. However, life simply doesn’t work that way (if it does for you, please share your secret!). One person’s right can be another person’s wrong and the absolute pursuit of perfection can stress the body and mind to its limits.
So, should we all run out and purposefully screw something up? No, although, it might sound like fun once in a while. What we can try to do is not be fearful of making mistakes. We can take calculated risks and suppress our natural ability to be afraid to make mistakes.
Take Calculated Risks and Don’t Be Afraid
Mistakes are not only the result of an impulse or simply not thinking about something, they are also often the byproduct of some serious analytic thinking about the right course of action.
What’s the difference? An impulse might spur you to grabbing that hot cup of coffee in the morning without recognizing it could be producing the heat of a small sun. Serious analytical thinking, however, might be your decision to invest in a new venture where you spent days or weeks going over the investment strategy. Both of these resulted in a “mistake” – the coffee and the investment burned you, in different ways.
While restraining your impulses to prevent mistakes is a great idea, restraining your analytical thinking and decision making processes because you are afraid to get it wrong is simply preventing you from ever having a chance.
Give yourself chance, possibility and simply tempt the gods by thinking (as little or as much as it takes) about a potential course of action and doing it without overdoing the fear of getting it wrong. Fear can prevent you from ever moving forward and it can stick you in something called “analysis paralysis”. Analysis paralysis keeps you thinking about the consequences of a course of action and makes you simply lose sight of the end result.
Have you ever met someone and simply couldn’t understand why they had become so successful? Oftentimes, their success is based upon taking risks; hopefully calculated ones. More so, they likely learned from their mistakes. If anything, mistakes will teach you something.
Mistakes are a Learning Opportunity
Learning is good for you. Adding to your knowledgebase (or more simply what’s in your brain that you can use) is a great way to keep your brain working for the long haul. Making mistakes is simply one more way that you can learn and it’s often “experience learning”.
Experience learning is about doing something that then gets branded into your mind. Experience learning doesn’t only take the form of picking up a new skill, it can also produce the “how not to do it” effect.
For example, ever burn a batch of cookies or slide across ice during the dead of winter in your new sneakers? What did or could those experiences teach you? They might have taught you that the temperature gauge on your oven is off, that you should have read the recipe, or that sneakers don’t provide much traction on ice. There are many things you could or did learn from one of these experiences.
When you think about the good, bad and ugly of your mistake – the good is always your take-away - what you learned from the screw up.
Mistakes happen both personally and professionally. You might cc your co-worker on an e-mail they didn’t need to see or you might buy your fiancé a Taschen Art book a modern Swedish design for Valentine ’s Day (I did that). You either did or will learn and grow personally and professional from these mistakes.
Live your life, make a mistake or mistakes, don’t be afraid to, you will learn from them and be stronger for it.
Make Mistakes, Big and Small, and You Might Learn Something
Posted: 15 Jun 2009 04:36 AM PDT
We are all afraid of making mistakes. Humiliation, embarrassment, censure and lots of other nasty things can come from simple or significant mistakes.We would all love to be perfect and do it all right. However, life simply doesn’t work that way (if it does for you, please share your secret!). One person’s right can be another person’s wrong and the absolute pursuit of perfection can stress the body and mind to its limits.
So, should we all run out and purposefully screw something up? No, although, it might sound like fun once in a while. What we can try to do is not be fearful of making mistakes. We can take calculated risks and suppress our natural ability to be afraid to make mistakes.
Take Calculated Risks and Don’t Be Afraid
Mistakes are not only the result of an impulse or simply not thinking about something, they are also often the byproduct of some serious analytic thinking about the right course of action.
What’s the difference? An impulse might spur you to grabbing that hot cup of coffee in the morning without recognizing it could be producing the heat of a small sun. Serious analytical thinking, however, might be your decision to invest in a new venture where you spent days or weeks going over the investment strategy. Both of these resulted in a “mistake” – the coffee and the investment burned you, in different ways.
While restraining your impulses to prevent mistakes is a great idea, restraining your analytical thinking and decision making processes because you are afraid to get it wrong is simply preventing you from ever having a chance.
Give yourself chance, possibility and simply tempt the gods by thinking (as little or as much as it takes) about a potential course of action and doing it without overdoing the fear of getting it wrong. Fear can prevent you from ever moving forward and it can stick you in something called “analysis paralysis”. Analysis paralysis keeps you thinking about the consequences of a course of action and makes you simply lose sight of the end result.
Have you ever met someone and simply couldn’t understand why they had become so successful? Oftentimes, their success is based upon taking risks; hopefully calculated ones. More so, they likely learned from their mistakes. If anything, mistakes will teach you something.
Mistakes are a Learning Opportunity
Learning is good for you. Adding to your knowledgebase (or more simply what’s in your brain that you can use) is a great way to keep your brain working for the long haul. Making mistakes is simply one more way that you can learn and it’s often “experience learning”.
Experience learning is about doing something that then gets branded into your mind. Experience learning doesn’t only take the form of picking up a new skill, it can also produce the “how not to do it” effect.
For example, ever burn a batch of cookies or slide across ice during the dead of winter in your new sneakers? What did or could those experiences teach you? They might have taught you that the temperature gauge on your oven is off, that you should have read the recipe, or that sneakers don’t provide much traction on ice. There are many things you could or did learn from one of these experiences.
When you think about the good, bad and ugly of your mistake – the good is always your take-away - what you learned from the screw up.
Mistakes happen both personally and professionally. You might cc your co-worker on an e-mail they didn’t need to see or you might buy your fiancé a Taschen Art book a modern Swedish design for Valentine ’s Day (I did that). You either did or will learn and grow personally and professional from these mistakes.
Live your life, make a mistake or mistakes, don’t be afraid to, you will learn from them and be stronger for it.
 | Written for Dumblittleman.com on 6/15/2009 by Ari J. Markenson, J.D., M.P.H. Ari is a healthcare attorney, graduate school professor and writer who regularly tries to learn something new as a goal toward personal and professional achievement. | Photo Credit: plingberg |
Thursday, July 02, 2009
Fort Wayne Site-of-the-Day
Well, close to Fort Wayne. Grab your calendar and plan for this now. Click here to see what I'm talking about.
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